|Posted on June 14, 2015 at 7:55 AM|
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"Work of Art"
“Every part of me is a vision of a portrait of Mona.. Mona Lisa.. Every part of me is beautiful and I finally see, I’m a work of art.. A masterpiece.” – Jazmine Sullivan Masterpiece 2015
The above quote is a lyric from Jazmine Sullivan’s latest album released this year, Reality Show. I personally love the song simply because the lyrics exude so much nakedness. A raw explosion of emotion about self-acceptance and the beauty in knowing that flaws and all, you’re a work of art. A colleague and I were discussing topics that ranged from having children to self-esteem and the heartbreaking reality that we as women have become accustomed to accepting foolishness from men. As a result we see higher teen pregnancy and suicide rates. We see less women educating themselves and instead becoming subjects of ridicule and shame. However these stigmas can be overcome. I’m not at all advising that you become overly concerned with what people think of you. But when you think about how we were created, in the image and likeness of a God who loves you enough to grant you purpose and strength, is it really wise to allow our weaknesses to take dominion of our lives?
I can say from personal experience that I understand the thoughts of feeling less than you are and accepting love subsidies in place of the real thing. I don’t condone it, but I do understand it. By love subsidies I mean things such as, being involved with a married (or otherwise in a relationship) man because he makes you feel “so good” when you’re with them. Or the chemistry is so strong between you and that man but he doesn’t nurture your needs as a woman. How about he buys you whatever you ask and some things you don’t. He’s so spontaneous and romantic but he’s abusive verbally or physically. His gifts are a way out of saying sorry and asking you to accept his abuse. For you, his words become scripture and you’re left feeling as if there is something wrong with you because he can’t commit, he can’t engage in you, or he won’t stop the abuse. It’s not fair and it’s not accurate either. There is a huge problem and it’s thinking that you can change him with your sensitivity, nurturing, and doing what he asks. It is not your job to change a man, it’s your job to change your way of thinking and doing so that going forward, you are encouraged enough to say, “No. I will not accept his foolishness and call it my happiness” then walk away. And maybe none of these scenarios fit your personal circumstances. But any woman who feels worthless or as if she deserves to be mistreated has been sadly misguided and is confused about the purpose for which WOMEN were created (reference Genesis 2:20-25).
The message I want to stress upon you today is simply this: your worth is not found in a man’s acceptance of you. Your worth is found in you accepting who you are and loving all attributes that make you uniquely you. You have more power than you give yourself credit for. You must first discover it and use it to overcome all of your thoughts or feelings of inadequacy. It won’t happen overnight, but it also won’t happen if you continue to allow someone else’s negative contributions to your life become more important to you than your own positive influence. Keep God first and the all things will work together for the good of those who love God (Romans 8:28).
“I’ll share my picture with the world. I’m not afraid to let it show anymore…” Jazmine Sullivan, Masterpiece